Members of my Network Marketing Coaching Programs can ask me for help or advice every week.
I recently got this question from one of my Advanced Diamond Mastermind Coaching members from Australia.
Hi Simon Chan
My downlines are a group of very diverse gentlemen at the age of 23-25 in which they are mostly older than me. Most are humble and respectful but the main leader is demanding and disrespectful.
So I am at a point where my leadership has plateaued what are some of the things that I can do to increase my leadership capabilities to gain respect and not get pushed around since I have a very quiet and soft personality.
Network Marketing is All About Leadership
It's good that you are dealing with these Leadeship challenges early because sooner or later you will have to do deal with them anyway.
This will speed up your learning curve.
Network marketing is about creating a “Leadership Factory” and the first leader you have to create and constantly grow is yourself
Leadership Mindset and Confidence
People follow you NOT because of your age nor background.
But because of your CONFIDENCE and VISION.
People buy your COMMITTED VISION.
There has been plenty of young successful leaders regardless of their gender and the one thing they all had in common was their passion towards achieving their COMMITTED VISION.
Be Careful of Your Thoughts
You attract what you think.
If you think you are weaker or that the men will not relate to you, then guess what?
You always act out what you think.
You will act timid.
You will act shy.
You will lack confidence.
You will speak softly.
Your actions always reflect how you think.
The most dangerous part is that most of the time you are UNAWARE that your actions are a reflection of your thoughts.
So if you think you have challenges to lead older mean, this will cause people to not follow you or… they may not even respect you.
And the more they don't respect you, the worse your mindset is and then it becomes a viscious cycle.
So the FIRST step is to get it out of your head that it is “harder” to lead older men.
It is ALL MENTAL!
As you change your mindset and stop thinking the way you are thinking, you will see people react to you differently.
It's because your Beliefs dictates how you act and speak without you even knowing it!
And once your mindset changes, people will notice the change and start following you.
How to Fix Your Beliefs and Mindset
There are 2 ways to fix your Mindset issue:
1) Look for female role models that are successful leaders
The easiest solution is to read biographies. Not only will you learn but they will inspire you.
The good news is that there are plenty of successful female leaders out there.
From Oprah, to Hillary Clinton, to Meg Whitman, Marissa Mayer , Carly Fiona
And by the way, if you don't know the last few women, then you should.
Always treat you network marketing business like a million dollar business and study business leaders.
2) Self Development
Study leadership everyday.
You should be engaged in some type of Leadership training every single day.
Whether it is a book or audio, you should be studying daily.
3 great books that I recommend are:
1) 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell
This is like the “Bible” of leadership development and I read this cover to cover at least once a year as review. I also use it as a reference.
2) Leadership Gold by John Maxwell
Excellent companion to 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. As I have grown as a leader, I actually find this book more relevant.
3) Leadership Promises for Everyday by John Maxwell
Contains 365 Biblical leadership lessons that you can apply daily.
This is MY leadership guide.
I've been reading this everyday since 2006 and still start every morning reading it.
Study Your People
A good leader always relates to his people.
He knows the heart of his followers.
So study your people.
What makes them happy?
What makes them cry?
What makes them motivated?
What makes them discouraged?
If you don't know how your people are, then the solution is easy.
Just go buy a book and study!
Sounds like a simple solution but it really is.
There is a book or course on just about everything.
When I had issues with leading certain demographics in the past, the first thing was to buy 3 books on that group of people and study them so that I could relate better.
Your Team will Grow as You Grow
As you grow your leadership, you will magically see your challenges and problems disappear.
It all starts with you.
Commit to your own personal leadership development for 1 month and you will see positive changes happen.
Let me know how you grow as a leader!
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