How to Increase Your Confidence and Self Esteem

Learn to Increase Your Confidence and Self Esteem

I would never have thought that I would one day teach you how to increase your confidence and self esteem.

Because you see…

I was always a shy and quiet kid growing up, and was scared to approach girls.

In college, I always envied my friends who were in relationships. I finally had my first serious girlfriend at the age of 25, and it was a big shock when I discovered a real relationship was full of challenges. I didn’t know that was the case beforehand; I was clueless.

If you don’t have any problems in your relationship, then you are NOT really in a relationship.

It is the same with life.

Life is full of challenges and problems.

I learned early on that everyone has problems. The only people that don’t have problems are dead people.

Fortunately, in every obstacle, we have a choice.

We can be the one in control, or we can be the victim.

Who do you choose to be?

Things That I Don’t Want to Do

You’re probably like me and can easily list at least ten things you don’t want to do in the next 30 seconds.

I bet that most of the things on that list are things that you should be doing because they are good for you. (For example, you should exercise more, spend more time talking to your spouse, make more prospecting calls, save more money, etc.)

Isn’t it ironic that the things that are GOOD for us are usually the ones we don’t want to do?

We Hurt Ourselves Two Ways

First, by not doing what we should be doing, and then second, which is worse, we justify why we don’t do them.

We give common excuses like, “I’m not that type of person.”

For example, if you have a hard time getting your daily exercise in, you may lie to yourself and say that, “I’m not the workout type.”

Or, if you are not a good communicator and it is hurting your business, you delude yourself by saying, “I’m shy and not the talkative social type.”

When you give those excuses you become the VICTIM of your excuse.

You fabricate a reason that justifies your actions, and by doing so, you blind yourself to the reality that you CAN be different.

Your self-esteem also decreases because you have no hope.

You begin to feel that you are hopeless and things will never change because “that’s the way you are.”

But there is good news…

You CAN be better because we all have the POWER to do so.

If you don’t like to exercise because you are “not the exercise type,” instead of being a victim of that excuse, you can have the power and the CONTROL to live the life you want by just doing it.

By just making the decision to do it, you prove that you can easily do something that others can do.

Having Control of Your Life

Learn to have Power, and Control the life you want to live.

As a network marketing coaching and trainer, I often encounter motivated distributors who want to succeed, but they have difficulties in prospecting because they are shy.

I can relate to them because I am shy, too.

If you don’t believe me, let me admit to you that I’m the person that loves to go to movie theatres to watch movies by myself, and I cherish moments when I get to eat lunch alone in a restaurant.

I love being the “loner.”

So how did a shy person like me learn how to prospect?

I became a top income earner in MLM because I decided to use my POWER and do the thing that I don’t like to do.

I went out and prospected anyway, and by doing so, I CONTROLLED my life instead of being a victim of the shy excuse.

Doing what I did not want to do, not only helped me take CONTROL of my life, but more importantly, it made me feel good.

I felt good because I knew that I could control my destiny, instead of letting my surroundings and past drag me down.

Do Something You Don’t Want to Do Everyday

Make a goal each day to do one thing you do NOT want to do.

There are two main reasons for this.

First, chances are, the action you’ll take will be something you should be doing anyway. It will help you live a better and more productive life. (For example, you may take time to exercise, make one more sales call, or spend an extra ten minutes talking to your spouse, etc.)

Second, and more importantly,by doing something you don’t want to do, you prove to yourself that you have CONTROL in your life.

You have the POWER, and that makes you feel good.

Your self-esteem increases.

It feels good that we have the ability to shape and mold the life we want to live, instead of letting circumstances just happen and hope to get lucky.

And the better you feel about yourself, the happier you will be; you will be living a more meaningful life.

Two Recent Examples of Living a More Meaningful Life

I’ll share with you two examples of how I discovered new joys of life when I did exactly what I did not want to do.

1) Changing the Morning Diapers

Most fathers hate changing diapers, especially the morning diaper after their kids wake up and the diaper has been soaked with urine for hours. You get the picture.

For a long time, I never had to change Ethan’s morning diaper because my in-laws were living with us, and they helped out.

A few weeks back, my in-laws went back to Vancouver. That meant for a period of four weeks, I had to do it.

It was nasty, but guess what?

After a few days, I found myself enjoying the routine.

I discovered a special bonding time with my son that happens when I say good morning to him and do the diaper routine.

I found myself teaching him different colors (We use colored, organic, cloth diapers.), and talking about the plans for the day.

Each morning, I discovered that he had learned new words while he slept and could speak more and more.

They’re priceless memories.

And my life became more meaningful and memorable because of simply doing something I did not want to do.

My in-laws are back living with us now, and they can change the morning diaper again. However, guess what?

I still do it because I don’t want to trade those memories with my son for anything.

2) Workouts at 5am

I love waking up super early at 4am to go through my morning routine of yoga and working on my creative tasks for the day.

I love the peacefulness and serenity of being up and working while others are sleeping.

It’s the last thing in the world I want to change and give up.

However, recently I had to change my routine and do something different.

Instead of working out during the day, I had to change my workout schedule to 5am workouts.

Why?

Because I wanted to take Ethan to Disneyland and the beach, and the only time I had left to workout was the early morning before everyone woke up.

You know what happened?

After doing it two or three times, I realized I enjoyed my new routine and that it made me even MORE productive.

I do these intense workouts of running two miles to the gym, lifting weights, and then running the two miles back home.

It gets my heartbeat up, and I discovered that the blood flow increased my energy and made me more productive during the day.

I get more ideas, and I can get more work done in less time as a result.

So now, I can get my workout in, have time for Ethan, and get even more work done than I did in the past! 🙂

All because I changed my routine and did something I did not want to do.

But the best feeling is… I discovered this new routine because I made it happen.

I took my POWER and made the decision to do something different, something I didn’t want to do.

Knowing that I made a simple decision and that it has led to something that has made my life better makes me feel good!

If you ever wanted to increase your self-esteem and feel good, just use your POWER to do one thing you don’t want to do!

What Excuses are Victimizing You

So do you have a list of excuses that are preventing you from getting more out of life?

Have you ever felt that your life is limited because of your circumstances?

It’s a terrible, depressing feeling.

However, the good news is that each of us can take control of our lives.

Just make a decision today to do ONE thing… just ONE thing that you don’t want to do, and just do it.

Your life will improve dramatically because you will be doing something you should be doing, and more importantly, you will feel better and have more self-esteem because you know that you have CONTROL of your life.

You will increase your confidence and self esteem.

You have the POWER; you’re no longer a victim.

Sincerely,

Simon Chan