5 Things I Wish I Could Do It Over Again
Thanks for all the birthday wishes and comments from last week's post on how to get Stronger, Wiser, and More Prosperous with Age.
The older I get, the more time I spend reflecting on the lessons I have learned in life.
I guess a big part of it is realizing my mortality. When you are young, you tend to think that you are going to live forever.
As I've gotten older, I’ve realized my time is limited. I must maximize every day of my life so that I'm truly living. Doing that has caused me to reflect more on where my life is going.
Last week, I thought about the lessons I’ve learned from my mistakes and what I would do differently if I could do things all over again.
There are some people that say they wish they were young again.
I'd like to add that I wish I was 21 again, BUT ONLY if I could go back with the wisdom I have now!
Don't get me wrong. I'm grateful for my life and my journey, but if I had to do it again, here are five things I would do differently.
I’ll explain one thing I would do differently in each of the five categories of life:
If I Could Do It Over Again Regarding Relationships
I would care less about what others thought about me. I've discovered that no one really cares about you anyway.
People are not talking about you or thinking about you nearly as much as you feel they are.
I've made so many mistakes in the past because I was afraid of how some people would feel or think about me.
It's sad, but at the same time, we are fortunate that most people only have their own interests in mind.
If you are letting someone else’s opinion stop you from doing what you want to do, then you're basically giving your life away.
You are not truly living the one life you have.
If I Could Do it Over Again Regarding Parenting
The lesson I learned here is more of a health than a parenting issue.
The one thing I would do differently would be to sleep more after my son was born!
Sleeping only three to four hours a night caused me to be cranky, and I could feel my body breaking down daily. Even though I would take one to two hour naps, they did not help. I would pull muscles easily, and things would take forever to heal. Most importantly, I did not enjoy the time I spent with my son.
I know it is hard for many fathers of newborns to sleep, but I have the luxury of having my own business and control of my time.
The problem for me is that work is never work. Work is tons of fun. I love it.
I always want to work more, but with my son being born, there just wasn’t enough time to do all the work I wanted to do, spend time with him, and still sleep.
If I had to do it again, I would have given some projects up so that I could sleep at least six hours a night
I've learned that you can get more things done in less time if you sleep more. Plus, you're a much happier camper!
If I Could Do it Over Again Regarding Health
Even though I eat pretty healthy at most of my meals, I love to eat big portions!
Throughout my youth, I developed the habit of eating a lot. I think it came from being picked on (I was always the skinniest and weakest kid in elementary school.), and that caused me to eat big meals so that I could “bulk up.”
As I got older, I learned that no matter how “healthy” you eat, if you eat big portions, it's not good for you.
If I had to do it again, I’d eat smaller portions when I was younger.
After I started to eat smaller meals, I was pleasantly surprised. Even though I ate less, I got more energy and slept better because my body's energy was not drained by digestion.
If I Could Do it Over Again Regarding Business
If you want to be successful in business, not only is it mandatory to have a mentor, but you also must connect yourself with people who are BETTER than you.
Not only does a group of motivated and successful individuals provide immediate help and support, more importantly, it affects your philosophy.
And your thoughts ultimately determine your destiny.
There is a reason why my Insider's Circle members are more motivated, learn quicker, and have more success than many of the other MLM distributors. They learn from me on our weekly trainings, and they are plugged into a successful environment.
One of my biggest regrets is that there was a lapse in my business life where I did not have a mentor and was not in a Mastermind group.
I had a great mentor and was also plugged into a good group of distributors when I started my MLM business, but five years later, I surpassed them all in my achievements and didn't have anyone to “feed” me anymore. I was also so “busy” that it prevented me from joining a Mastermind or a business group, such as Insider's Circle.
Looking back, the years where my business stalled were the years when I lacked a mentor and didn't associate with a group of entrepreneurs who were better than me.
When you are the smartest person you know, that's a scary place to be because it means you don't have someone to help you grow faster.
It wasn't until I forged a business partnership with Scott McGee, and also joined a seven-figure Mastermind group, that my business took off again.
I was no longer the “smartest kid on the block,” but my business took off because I spent time with entrepreneurs that were earning over $5 million a year.
If I had to do it again, I would make sure I always had a mentor and was the “dumbest” person in the room.
When you do those two things, it guarantees you will always learn, grow, and get better.
If I Could Do it Over Again Regarding Money
I spent a lot of time with my grandparents growing up, and they taught me many good values.
One of the things that was programmed into my mind was the importance of being frugal and saving money.
Saving money is good, but I've learned the hard way that being frugal on the front end can often make you lose more money on the backend in terms of time.
Especially in this modern era where technology forces everyone to go faster and do more, time is the most valuable currency.
If you are an employee, you may not understand this concept because entrepreneurs control their income, while most employees have a limit on how much they can earn.
Entrepreneurs don’t have a ceiling on their income.
As a businessperson, I have the freedom to go and make more sales and grow my business at any time.
So every second, minute, and hour is precious as an entrepreneur.
I used to have this employee mentality and would do things like spend 15 minutes searching for an online coupon to save $5, or spend 20 minutes to find warranty info to return a $125 headphones.
I wasted so much time because, in my mind, I was thinking that I was “saving money.” I didn't realize that I was losing time and income opportunities.
Time is the real currency now, and it’s our MOST VALUABLE asset.
If I had to do it again, I would value my TIME more than money.
Nowadays, instead of finding the online coupon, I just go buy at full price because I get more time. Instead of taking the time to get my headphones replaced, I just buy new ones.
As a business owner, I can easily make that money back. Also, having the extra time to spend with my family is worth more than the money saved.
One last thing about money… with inflation and who knows what the financial markets are doing, how much is the dollar you are holding worth in the future anyway?!
Time is our most valuable asset, and it’s the ONLY currency I trust!
If You Could Do it Over Again
What about you?
What lessons has life taught you and how have you changed?
If you could do it over again and change five things, what would they be?
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