How to Avoid the Temptation to Fit In with the Crowd
This story is one of the things that helps me justify my contrarian philosophy, the philosophy that helped guide me to become one of the top MLM income earners in my company.
A few years ago, I was shocked that one of my friends from my graduating class in high school donated $1 million USD to our school.
I guess the shock was because I was friends with him, and I knew him well.
However, the more I thought about it, it wasn't that shocking.
This kid was proud to be different. He didn't want to fit in with the rest of us.
He definitely lived my contrarian philosophy, except that he figured it out much earlier than I!
I first met him in 8th grade at the Marshall Chess Club in Greenwich Village in New York City. He was kind of cocky because he beat me easily, but somehow we got to know each other and became friends.
Throughout high school, while most kids would just hang out, play sports and video games, he would play chess.
We took biology class together in freshman year. I clearly remember that he was super smart, but never studied or went to class.
He sat behind me, and on exam days, he'd always ask me if I could let him cheat so that he could pass. Since we were friends, and he helped me get better in chess, I always let him see my answers.
Our friendship faded during his senior year because I didn't see him much. He would no longer play chess in the cafeteria, and he was always busy playing with his stock simulation games on a computer.
After we graduated, I didn't hear from him for over 20 years, until I saw his name in the newspaper. He had started his own hedge fund and earned enough money to donate $1 million back to our school!
If you had met him in high school, would you have guessed he would have become as successful as he is today?
Successful People Don’t Try to Fit In
Do you ever wonder why some people are successful while others are not?
Whether you are an MLM distributor, an entrepreneur, a corporate executive, or an athlete, there is a huge list of characteristics that are shared by top performers.
Top performers have the ability to reject the temptation to join the crowd and do what everyone else is doing.
In many ways, they share the same contrarian philosophy that I've used as a blueprint to guide me to success in the MLM profession.
High achievers don't do the things that others are doing.
While rest of the kids in high school were having fun, top athletes like Ronaldo, Tiger Woods, and Lebron James were practicing.
While other kids were partying, Bill Gates was busy being a nerd and programming 10 hours a day in a computer lab.
Trust me, I'm sure Mark Zuckerberg didn't go out on many dates in high school either.
If you want to be successful, you have to be comfortable in saying no and not following the crowd.
If you ever hang out with people who are more successful than you, you’ll quickly discover they have very little in common with you.
For example, people who earn $40,000 USD a year are shocked at how different they are compared to a person that earns $250,000 a year.
The things they do, what they pay attention to, and how they think are totally different.
That shouldn't surprise you though.
Let's look at the other direction.
If you look at a group of people who you are less successful than you, e.g. the people who refuse to get jobs and prefer to live off government aid, they would have very little in common with what you do.
The same is true for the people who are more successful than you.
The trick to success is avoiding the temptations to fit in and do the things that everyone else in the world is doing.
In high school, most of us wanted to fit in, but you are older and wiser than that now. You know better!
Embrace that you are DIFFERENT.
Just by being an entrepreneur and an MLM distributor, you ARE DIFFERENT.
Embrace and be proud of that!
If You Are Uncomfortable with Being Different
If you feel that you always want to fit in and be like everyone else, let me ask you a few questions:
If you have the same skills as everyone else,
If you have the same talents,
If you have the same habits,
If you have the same routines,
If you look at things the same way,
If you talk about the same things,
then ask yourself this final question:
Do most people in the world that you know have the success that you want?
If the answer is no, then why do you want to fit in and follow them?
Be unique. Be different.
You must be different and be willing to do the things that others won’t do if you want results that others don’t have.
God gave each one of us unique talents.
You were born special. Go use those talents to be different and unique.
Let’s do it!
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